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27 Things All Women Should Know About Sex

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1Every woman has a surefire happy-making position — find yours

By all means, try new things, mix it up, find an alternate use for your baby’s exersaucer when she’s asleep if it adds to the variety — but figure out your no-fail move or position so you know you can always have an orgasm when you need one.

2That position may change

Maybe in your misspent youth you were all about acrobatics and funky props, but now you strive for a deep connection with your guy. (Or maybe it’s the other way around!) What you crave, both physically and emotionally, can shift over time, says Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale School of Medicine. Pay attention to what you’re feeling (or not feeling) and adapt to your new normal.

3He doesn’t have a flaw-o-meter

That would be you scanning your body for an errant pudge or a dimple in the wrong place. “During sexual arousal, men are experiencing such a neurochemical cocktail rush, they’re really just caught up in the intoxication of it all,” says REDBOOK Love Network expert and sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. In other words, he’s too overwhelmed with joy to notice your “flaws.” Put aside your body angst and you’ll soon be having as much fun as he is.

4Sex in a soft, clean, comfy bed is underrated

You’re supposed to want to do it on the kitchen floor, in the airplane bathroom and hanging from your light fixtures. Bah! There’s no shame in enjoying your good sheets.

 

5Sex clichés are clichés for a reason: They work

Get a hotel room. Have date night. Take a bubble bath. For God’s sake, buy some scented candles already!

 

6Everyone else is not having more (or better) sex than you are

There is no “normal” amount we should all aspire to, no magic number of times per month that signifies your relationship is hunky-dory. There’s only one question you need to answer — are you having enough sex for you?

 

7Asking for what you want is worth the embarrassment

What’s a brief awkward moment of sounding like one of those women at the end of a 900 number compared to, well, getting what you need?

 

8You need transition time into sex

Look at all the people who want a piece of you — your kid, your client, the guy who’s supposed to be renovating your kitchen. So don’t expect to make the leap from corporate exec or general contractor or mommy-on-the-spot to sex goddess without a little time to reassemble yourself. When you’re done with the dinner dishes, take a shower — alone! — or read a book. Better yet, get your guy to do the dishes. After that, you might want to give him some action, after all.

 

9The more sex you have, the more you want

It’s simple — delicious recent memories make you want to reenact the fun. But the reverse is also often true — if you go too long without, you forget how much you like it.

 

10Masturbating isn’t just for dry spells

First of all, it’s plain fun, and second, when was the last time you disappointed yourself? Not to mention the fact that more frequent orgasms will keep you craving partner play, too (see above).


11Worrying about your orgasm is the best way to chase it away

When your mind is roiling, it’s not happening…concentrate…he’ll think he failed…what’s wrong with me? Focus on the lovely physical sensations instead and soon you won’t be able to think straight — in a good way.

 

12Planned sex can be even better than spontaneous sex

Anticipation as foreplay. Think about it.

 

13Yes, you can give him a hand

Touching yourself to speed up your happy ending is not only allowed, it’s appreciated, especially when your guy has had his neck in an awkward position for the better part of an hour.

 

14He doesn’t need you to know any fancy techniques

“There are many paths to male orgasm,” says Kerner. As long as you pay attention to his reactions, refrain from inflicting pain (unless invited to) and don’t do anything involving teeth (again, unless he asks), you won’t hear any complaints.

 

15Sometimes what your body lusts for most is sleep

An “off” night or a dry spell doesn’t mean your relationship is tanking. It usually means you have children or a demanding job or you need to be alone in your head. Go ahead, take the night off.


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