A mother who gave up her son for adoption 30 years ago now says she’s in love with him and has revealed the couple are trying for a baby together.
Kim West, 51, has been in a relationship with her biological son, Ben Ford, 32, for two years after he sent her a letter out of the blue in 2013.
The 51-year-old was forced to give up Ben for adoption just a week after he was born and never heard from him after that, the New Day reports.
They only resumed contact when Ben, who was living in the US at the time, sent his mum, from England, the letter.
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The couple now say their sex life is ‘incredible’ and plan to get married, but insist they don’t have an incestuous relationship.
Kim told journalist Alley Einstein in the New Day: ‘This is not incest, it is GSA. We are like peas in a pod and meant to be together.’
She says that she knows that people will have a bad reaction to them, that they will say horrible things but that she is willing to battle for her relationship
Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) causes relatives to feel sexual attraction to each other after meeting as adults.
At the time that Ben contacted Kim, he had been married to Victoria, but they later split up so that he could be with his mum.
What is Genetic Sexual Attraction?
Genetic Sexual Attraction is a sexual attraction between close relatives, such as a parent and their child, siblings or half siblings, or cousins, who first meet as adults.
In the UK, sex with a parent, child, sibling, nephew, niece, uncle or aunt is defined as incest and is illegal under the Sexual Offences Act 2003. It carries a maximum two-year penalty.
The term GSA was first coined in the US in the late 1980s by Barbara Gonyo, the founder of Truth Seekers In Adoption.
In the book Forbidden Love, written by Gonyo, she suggests that romantic love and erotic arousal may be the delayed result of ‘missed bonding’ that would have normally taken place if adoption hadn’t happened.
The most under-reported GSA relationships is between biological fathers and daughters as it is often considered abuse instead.
Kim, who is an interior designer from Islington, said she started noticing her attraction to her son and started having ‘sexy dreams’ about him.
Confused by her feelings, she Googled it and discovered an article on GSA, which made her feel relieved.
Ben, who lived in Colorado, also felt as though a weight had lifted and told her he had stopped having feelings for his wife.
He told the paper: ‘When I met Kim, I couldn’t think of her as my mum but instead as a sexual being.’
The pair spoke on the phone before eventually meeting up at a hotel where they drank alcohol and had their first kiss.
They then went on to have ‘incredible and mind-blowing sex’ a number of times.
Three days after, Ben broke the news to his wife and told her he was leaving her for his mum.
The couple flew to Michigan where they are now getting support from another GSA couple.
