Too many people feel like they’re sentenced to a lifetime of loneliness and singlehood. They see themselves as failures because they haven’t found the one or have found and lost the one more than once. I’d like to offer another perspective on the issue. For those of you who feel like you’ve somehow failed at love, think again. In truth, you’ve made a powerful choice for yourself.
Here are 10 reasons why you might have made this very personal choice.
- You’ve been unwilling to settle for something or someone that has not worked for you (a lot of people stay in relationships and find themselves settling— it’s okay to set the bar high even if that means you end up choosing to stay single).
- You’ve been focusing your energies on something more important in your life (relationships require a lot of energy and attention, especially in the beginning — it’s okay to choose other people and areas of your life in which to channel your time and energy).
- Relationship skills are not your strong suit and you’re not willing to do anything about it (you are entitled to accept yourself as is and live accordingly).
- You need a lot of autonomy and control over how you live your life (relationships require interdependence, compromise and a willingness to take care of the relationship’s needs first, instead of your own — not everyone is cut out for this and that’s okay).
- You like the freedom of exploring different people (not much else to say about this one — long-term commitment and monogamy is simply not of interest to you).
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