Have you ever experienced that moment, when you realise that a guy hasn’t responded to your text? You sit looking at your phone, you check to see if your phone is getting a signal, check to make sure that the message was sent and, then, you start to get angry with him. When a guy doesn’t answer a text, though, there could be many reasons why, so don’t start panicking just yet, check out these ten tips on what to do if a guy doesn’t text you back, before you change your Facebook status!
1. Don’t lose your temper
Keep your cool; there is probably a perfectly reasonable explanation why he hasn’t replied yet. He might have lost his phone, it might have got broken or, he must just be tied up with something else. Don’t lose your temper and send an angry text. You might be completely wrong, and you will feel foolish if you have accused him of doing something awful and he hasn’t.
2. Don’t keep texting or leaving him messages
Firing off a load of texts or leaving a ton of messages on his voice mail, is going to bug him and it will mike you appear desperate. Be patient, leave him alone for a while and wait until you know what is really going on.
3. Carry on with the rest of your life
When he doesn’t text back, don’t put your life on hold. It will be tempting to spend the day watching your phone, but that won’t make him reply any sooner. Just carry on as usual and try not to think about it. You are probably worried about nothing, so don’t let it get you down.
4. Send him a pleasant message
Once it has reached a reasonable length of time that you would normally have expected a response from him, it’s fine to send him a text, if only to make sure that he is OK. Keep your message light and pleasant, though, and remember that the reason that he hasn’t texted back could be that he has a serious problem on his hands or he is unwell.
5. Try one more time
If it’s been a day or two, and you still have no response, then send just one more text and then you might want to just let it go. It’s still not a good idea to get mad with him, though, until you know for sure what is going on. If there is a problem between the two of you, sending angry and demanding texts is not going to make things any better.
6. Don’t tell everyone about it
When he doesn’t text back, don’t go around bad mouthing the guy to mutual friends, because that will get back to him. You could make a few casual inquiries about the guy and try and find out what is going on, but keep your cool, and you will keep your dignity intact too.
Don’t start stalking him, but you could try and just, happen to be where you know he hangs out and bump into him ‘accidently’. If you haven’t known this guy for very long, then perhaps he needs a reminder of what he will be missing if he does keep on ignoring you.
8. Don’t publicise the situation
Whatever it is that’s going on between the two of you is private, so when he doesn’t text back, don’t write angry comments on Facebook or send of a stream of Tweets about the guy. It will make you look really childish if you do and it won’t make him contact you. If it’s been a few days now and you still haven’t heard, then it might be the time to start thinking about moving on.
9. Don’t hang around waiting for him
When it’s really gone too far and he still hasn’t contacted you, then all you can do, is to let drop and move on. If he’s not even bothered to reply to you or let you know what is going on, then he is the in the wrong, not you. He hasn’t even got the courage to tell you straight, so don’t waste any more of your time on him.
10. Retain your self-respect
If you do follow these tips, you don’t get angry and you don’t bad mouth him, then you will be the one who has retained their self-respect, not him. It can be very frustrating when someone disappears and refuses to answer texts, but don’t stoop to his level, you are better than that. Word will get around about how he treated you and then, he will look the fool, not you.
What do you do when he doesn’t text back?