Quite a lot of girls complain that they don’t get noticed when, the truth is, they are being noticed, but guys are being put off from approaching them, because of some of the subtle signals that they are sending out.
Men are not as sure of themselves as you might think, so if you are giving the impression that you are not really interested, or the guys think they are more likely to get a slap around the face than they are a conversation, then they are going to be reluctant to approach you. If you have been wondering why all your efforts to look gorgeous and desirable don’t seem to be attracting the men, then read these ten tips on how to make yourself seem more approachable to guys.
1. Think about your general appearance
We know that looks aren’t all that counts, but we also know that first impressions are important. Not everyone can afford chic clothes and the finest makeup, but you should still make the effort to make sure that you look neat and tidy. You should also be able to show your individuality in how you dress, but bear in mind that extreme fashion and extravagance will put some guys off.
2. Don’t give anyone a hard time
Remember that a guy could be watching you out of the corner of his eye, so don’t do anything to make him think twice about approaching you. If you launch into a verbal assault on a bartender, because he forgot to put ice in your drink, you’re going to make yourself look scary to any men who might be looking on.
3. Don’t look too busy to talk
Most people won’t interrupt you if you look too busy, so don’t be so engrossed in your phone, or your iPad that you don’t even notice that a guy is showing some interest in you! Also, if you are out with some friends, then don’t stand around in a huddle sharing the gossip, because that will dissuade a guy from making a move too.
4. Don’t hang out with the boys
There’s nothing at all wrong with having male friends, but if you hang out with them all the time, then other men are going to be cautious about approaching you. You may know that your relationship with these guys is nothing more than a friendship, but another man who is not a part of the group will assume that you are in a relationship with one of your male friends.
5. Think about the body language
You can make yourself look unapproachable by the way that you stand or you sit. Don’t fold your arms in front of you, and keep your body facing toward the people that you want to attract. You don’t need to make it look like you are desperate to attract attention, but you do want to send out the signal that it’s OK to approach you.
6. Laugh, smile and have fun
You will appear a lot more approachable if it looks like you are having fun, so smile and laugh and have a good time. The happier you look, the more you will make a man feel like he wants to join you and share in some of the fun.
7. Tell him with your eyes
One look can say it all, so use your eyes to draw a man in. Without making it too obvious, try and catch his eye occasionally and then look away again and perhaps, let your eyes linger on him for a little longer than they would usually. Too much eye contact with a stranger will make him feel uncomfortable, but get it right, and it will get his attention and make him want to come over and meet you.
8. Don’t get all tongue-tied when someone does talk to you
If a man is talking to you, then don’t get all embarrassed and tongue-tied. If you don’t respond to him, then he’s going to think that you are not interested and leave you on your own. Smile, engage him in conversation and sound interested in what he has to say.
9. Don’t look too aloof
Confidence is attractive, but over-confidence could make men think twice about approaching you. One thing that guys really fear is being rejected outright by a girl and being given the cold shoulder. Don’t let your confidence be mistaken for aloofness and give out the impression that you are too good for anyone in the room.
10. Give him opportunities to talk to you
If you have your eye on one guy, then put yourself in a position where he can talk to you. Be there, when he goes up to the bar or, get on the dance floor when he does. Get him away from his buddies and he’s more likely to approach you and, if he sees you often enough, he’s going to be more comfortable about approaching you.
Do you have other tips on how to seem more approachable to guys?