Do you believe that, at first glance, harmless habits can make people lonely and prevent them from getting married? I can say with confidence that they can. When I worked as a psychologist, I dealt with various problems of my patients. In most cases, the reasons of their life troubles were their habits and fears.
Human habits can exert a big negative influence on the quality of life and make us stray from the right path. It usually happens when people refuse to be awake of their faults and continue sticking to their guns. Unfortunately, they tend to blame others for their unhappiness. This approach will never help you break the vicious circle and overcome your laziness, because bad habits gradually become a significant part of your lifestyle.
At first, you should discover the nature of your inner world and weigh all pros and cons of your character. If negative traits and habits are predominant, you shouldn’t surrender to despair, because human mind is powerful and limitless. I’m sure that everyone can break harmless habits and change their private life for the better. The main thing is to be open to change and don’t fear to fight your inner demons. I hope this article will open your eyes to common habits that make people ‘forever alone.’
1. They’re afraid of reality
I think that people who’re afraid of reality will never get married if they do nothing to overcome this fear. It’s been proved that every human being is afraid of reality in a varying degree and it’s absolutely normal, because fear is a natural response to danger. But when these fears and deep-seated phobias take over, people become unable to take risks and responsibilities. A bit later these too sensitive and emotional personalities become the victims of their active imagination. I think that this weakness should be eliminated at earliest convenience. Every woman yearns to get married with emotionally strong and self-confident man.
Diffident personalities should once and for all realize that life is a constant struggle. If you want to reach success in either marriage or career, you should be ready to take up the running and face harsh realities of life with you head held high.
2. They prefer to be passive lazybones
In most cases lonely people are passive lazybones. The pursuit of happiness and self-cultivation aren’t their pair of shoes. They don’t try to take the initiative, but want to take the best things from life. If they believe that they’ll eventually get married, then their chances are limited. Nothing in this life happens eventually.
Life is a dynamic thing that requires people to be extremely active and productive. If you want other successful people to notice your talents, beauty and the depth of your rich inner world, you should open up and do your best to express yourself. But how can you meet a wonderful partner if you enjoy aimless passive pastime cooped up in your house? I’m sure that every lazybones can become an interesting and attractive person, if they finally get involved in different activities and find friends with common interests.
3. They’re too judgmental
Nowadays many people have incredibly high standards, especially when it comes to personal life and marriage. Sometimes human principles don’t let people think rationally, but provoke them to judge others for their failures and weaknesses. People who don’t take any effort to find a compromise will never get married, because a healthy marriage is always based on mutual understanding and respect. Wise people say that sometimes it’s necessary to keep silent if you’re at odds with your partner. It will help you keep your love relationship healthy and strong.
Furthermore, women should keep in mind that their habit of blaming their partners for low incomes can seriously damage man’s self-esteem. As a result, deep-seated contentment in man’s heart can gradually chill the ardor of his love. By all means, try not to offend people around you and you’ll be able to get married in a quite short period of time.
4. They dedicate their life to career
Workaholism has become one of the most difficult and actual problems of a modern world. This problem has a lot of advantages and disadvantages. Do you believe that workaholism can make you a happy person? If a successful career is the top priority in your life, then sooner or later, you’ll achieve a desirable result. All you have to do is throw yourself into this work and live for it.
Unfortunately, between two stools you fall to the ground. If you choose career, then you should be ready to sacrifice your health and love. Almost all workaholics find it difficult to build and maintain happy relationships, because they work and think only about their projects 24 hours a day. They have no time for love and romance.
5. They cry for the moon
Today both men and women have blurred vision of reality. It seems to me that ladies still believe that one day a wonderful knight in shining armor will appear and win their hearts. Men waste valuable time looking for a bachelor’s wife. It’s high time to get rid of this pointless habit and finally realize that perfect people do exist only in your imagination. The only way to find a suitable partner is to set realistic goals. You need to be sure that your dreams and desires coincide with reality. If you’re dreaming to get married with Johnny Depp by all means, then your private life is in danger.
I think that these annoying habits may prevent people from getting married and steal their happiness. There’s no need to become panic-stricken and worry about it. I have good news as well. All these harmful habits can be easily broken and replaced with good ones. I believe that pure love will help people close their eyes to each other’s shortcomings. But it doesn’t mean that you can relax and stop improving yourself. What other habits can prevent us from getting married? We’d like to know your point of view!