In celebration of my latest book, Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight, I’ve decided to round up 50 sexy or sex-filled things that you can do — easily. Well, depending on the kids and time, and without much prep, to help keep things cayenne-pepper hot in the sexy time department. And I want you to add to the list too, please!
Ready?
- Kiss like you did before you had ever done anything else.
- Breathe together, holding and hugging each other while you do it.
- Eat seductively. Really pay attention to how you lick ice cream or chew meat off a bone.
- See how long you can stay turned on without taking any of your clothes off.
- Dry hump with your clothes, or at least your underwear, on.
- Rub your hair all over his body.
- For at least one minute, both of you stare into each other’s eyes.
- Set up email accounts using aliases. Then send dirty emails and pictures to that account.
- Play a game of striptease.
- Collaborate on a piece of erotic writing or storytelling. You write/recite a paragraph, then your partner does the same. Go back and forth until you finish the story.
- Buy a pair of nitrile gloves and give your partner a gloved hand job. (Trust me, it feels different.)
- Wear a mask.
- Wear a wig.
- Try a new condom, heck, try the female condom.
- Use a string of pearls (plastic beads will do just fine), and masturbate his penis.
- Masturbate him with a banana peel. Try warming it in the microwave for five seconds for warmer, happier times.
- Use lube. Lots of lube.
- Use silicone lube and get it on in the shower.
- Be blindfolded or do the blindfolding.
- Find three things in the kitchen (like a spatula, wooden spoon, honey) that you can play with sensually.
- Fingerpaint each other’s breasts.
- Rock around the clit. With your finger, go clockwise from 12 on back, and counterclockwise. See what time feels best.
- Rent a porn and reenact a scene.
- Masturbate for each other. Cheer, hoot, and holler for your lover.
- Read each other an erotic story from a sexy book.
- Play a board game but change the rules to make them sexy.
- Try a board game designed to inspire monogamy.
- Have sex in your car, even if it’s parked in the garage.
- Squeeze your pelvic floor muscles around something or someone.
- Figure out a new sex position using pillows.
- Turn on an electric toothbrush … use them on his, or her, nipples.
- Use any vibrator … on him, in the area known as the perineum, between the bum and the balls.
- Have a sexy chat, either by video or text, and yes, even if you live together, do it from separate rooms.
- Have a contest to see who can come first, or who can hold out longest.
- Pick out your partner’s outfit and dress them up before you dress them down.
- Buy a wireless vibrator and go out dancing, and let your husband or boyfriend control the remote.
- Have sex first thing in the morning.
- See how high you can bring your sex energy through breathing.
- Get kinky — try light spanking or flogging.
- Try a vibrator built for two.
- Make love outdoors.
- Go on a date to a cheap hotel room.
- Pay your partner for sex.
- Give, or get, a lap dance.
- Slow dance like it’s the first time, but not that first awkward time. Unless, of course, awkward turns you on.
- Write down some fantasies and put them in a hat. Then pick out a fantasy and act it out. Include a list of props in your fantasy.
- Give each other head rubs.
- Massage each other using a soy-based hot wax candle.
- Leave the lights on. Get naughty. If you feel extra frisky, leave the blinds open too.
- Make a meal out of aphrodisiac foods. Feed it to each other, or eat the food off one another.
What hot sex tip could you share?