You can believe that love will always find a way if you like, or maybe you think that cupid will gently alight on the shoulder of your crush and turn his eyes in your direction at last. Well, we think that even cupid needs a little help sometimes, so if you’re lusting after a man who doesn’t even seem to know that you exist, here are a few ideas to help cupid’s arrow on its way:
Get the ball rolling
He can’t fall in love with you, if he doesn’t know that you’re there, so find some subtle ways to get him to notice you. Keep it casual, but find an excuse to talk to him, anything to get the ball rolling!
Look your best and make some changes
Try and always look your best when you know he’s going to be around. You don’t have to overdo it, but a few changes might get you noticed. Try wearing your hair differently or wear a different perfume, anything to get that first comment and get the conversation going.
Sound Interested
When you do get a chance to talk to him, don’t get all shy…instead, try to sound interested and find some common ground to talk about. Once you have found some things in common you’ll have a reason to talk again next time.
Small portion of flirting
Don’t be afraid of a little flirting, it never hurt anyone. If you don’t give out the right signals, he may never know that you’re interested. Remember, body language can be worth a thousand words. A glance here, a look there…it can all help to send him that all important message.
Do something nice for him
Even if you’ve never done it before, a nice and simple gesture wouldn’t go amiss. If your crush is someone you work with, then, next time you go out for coffee, see if he wants one too. You don’t need to go overboard though; it’s a bit too early yet for extravagant gifts!
Start by being friends
There’s nothing to say that you can’t be friends with someone of the opposite gender, even if you do have ulterior motives; so start by just striking up a friendship with your target and see where it leads.
Use your friends and allies
Using your friends to get the message across can overcome some of the initial awkwardness; so if you’re not the type to just come out with it, let others know how you feel and wait for the message to be passed on.
Make him a little bit jealous
If the message is still not getting through, try getting someone else coffee next time! See if that’ll jolt him into action. But don’t overdo it, or he’ll start to think that he has no chance with you anymore.
Keep it cool and be confident
There is a fine line between flirting and seeming desperate. Men are creatures with big egos, so they will love the attention, but be careful, too much and you’ll scare them off.
We are often lead to believe that men are brash, full of confidence and it is they that will always make the first move, but you’d be surprised at how many of even the biggest and the toughest of men are actually quite backward in coming forward and need just a little bit of encouragement first.
I hope you find this dating advice useful.
Feel free to share your own dating tips and knowledge on how to get noticed by your crush in the comment section below.
Stay happy!
