by Nicole Dixon
His apartment is clean, he’s saving money, and Thursday night poker with the guys has turned into date night with you? Either your guy is coming down with something, or he’s planning to pop the question. Read on for more telltale signs that he’s ready to say “I do.”
He’s Growing out of His Bachelor Ways
You can tell his bachelor days are behind him when his number-one priority is no longer himself. If he’s constantly using terms like “we” and “our,” and plans for a weekend with the guys in Vegas are suddenly on the back burner while weekends with you are becoming more common, it’s probably not that he’s just sick of his buddies. He might’ve realized that he prefers a more settled lifestyle, and this transition puts him squarely on the path to proposing.
A new couch may be just the start of major life changes.
You may notice certain items have disappeared from his pad, like his college posters. And did he ditch that ugly brown chair for something a little nicer? It could be the start of major changes — your boyfriend is making room in his life for you, both physically and emotionally.
He’s Curbing Big Purchases
Has your boyfriend gone from big spender to big saver? The plasma-screen TV he’d been planning to buy isn’t hanging over his mantel, and instead of buying rounds of drinks at happy hour after work, he’s home cooking dinner. He might be eliminating frivolous spending to brace for a large down payment (on your engagement ring).
He’s Not Complaining About Weddings
While at a wedding together, it’s more than just the usual eagerness for an open bar. He’s not cracking jokes during the vow exchange — instead, he’s commenting on the couple’s first-dance song choice and the meal selection. Take it as a sign that he’s paying attention to all things wedding-related because marriage is on his mind.
He’s Taken an Interest in Your Jewelry
Has he been complimenting your great ability to accessorize? Snooping around in your jewelry box? Holding your hand, constantly? All kidding aside, when your favorite ring goes missing, you’ll know for sure that he’s trying to find a covert way to figure out your size.
He Wants to Meet the Parents
Okay, so he’s probably already met your parents. If he hasn’t and has become insistent on meeting them, it’s probably for a good reason. Or maybe he already knows them well. If he’s all of a sudden the first to RSVP for your nephew’s birthday party, or jumps at the chance for a weekend visit with your parents, he’s ready for the next step.
He’s Been Talking to Friends and Family Behind Your Back
He’s not trying to sneak around but he wants to maintain some element of surprise while still giving you your dream proposal. Chances are he’s talking to your closest friends to get a better idea of what you might want in a proposal or for your engagement ring. (You better drop some ring hints to your besties too.)
He’s Involving You in Big Picture Decisions
He may have gotten a job offer he’s consulting you about or he’s thought about whether the two of you should move into a more spacious apartment. He’s asking you because he values your opinion and realizes if a proposal is on the horizon that life choices like these are going to start impacting both of you equally.
He’s Acting out of Character
You know his daily routine inside and out, and any variation is enough to give you pause. If he’s super-insistent that you guys do something you never do (like take a walk through a park or drive to a place to watch the sunset), he may be setting you up to speak those four little words: “Will you marry me?” After all that hard work, be sure to make it easy on him and say yes!