Happy International Day of the Female Orgasm!
That’s right ladies, you must give a big Obrigada (Thank you) to Brazil for establishing August 8 as the day to celebrate one of life’s biggest pleasure — the Big O.
According to Azteca Noticias, the holiday originated in the northeastern town of Esperantina in Brazil where the Councillor of the people decided to dedicate the day to the female orgasm as compensation for the “sexual debt” he owed his own wife.
Today the holiday is celebrated in Brazil, Spain, Mexico, Argentina, Peru, and Norway. And while it’s clear that every day should be dedicated to female pleasure, we thought we’d help you observe the date with some tips on how to reach an even better orgasm.
In collaboration with HuffPost Voices, here are 7 ways to reach the Big O:
1. Toys and Tools
Sexual stimulation is very important to reach orgasm and by lengthening these playful session you can even intensify them. Creating anticipation also helps. “When your mind is aroused, it’s much easier for your body to be stimulated,” Patty Brisben, founder of PureRomance, told HuffPost Voces. Not only are toys like vibrators controlled by your partner important, but also lubrication.
“For some reason women are reluctant to use lubrication,” sexologist Shanna Katz told HuffPost Voces. “Natural lubrication is not an indication of how aroused you are and many factors can lower this lubrications, like birth control pills, antihistamines, and stress.”
Experts recommend embracing that bottle of glycerin-free, water-based lubricant and go for it. “There’s a misconception among people in their 20s and 30s that lubrication is only necessary when there’s is a problem that needs to be resolved, like vaginal dryness, that is connected to aging,” Brisben added. “But that’s not true, lubrication is for any age. In fact, 65% of women have said that the use of lubrication has lead to incredible sex.”
2. Strengthening
There is a muscle group that isn’t strengthened in the gym. You’ve probably heard it before: you to do your Kegel exercises, which strengthen your pelvic muscles. “Doing Kegels regularly will result in stronger contractions during orgasm,” Lynn Wolfbrandt, product specialist for www.vibrators.com, told HuffPost. To do a Kegel, contract the muscle that control urine flow, exhaling as you contract and inhaling when you release. Ten repetitions three times a day. These exercises can be done anytime, anywhere without anyone knowing. There are also toys that can make it more fun.
3. HOT!
Temperature is often overlooked as an important variable in reaching the big O. “A Danish study showed that women have 30% more probability of reaching orgasm is their feet are warm rather than cold,” relationship coach Dylan Thrasher told HuffPost. “Although it’s very strange, putting socks on during sex will help you obtain more powerful orgasms or, better yet, try a foot massage using warming body oils to heat things up.”
4. Mental And Physical Connection
When you’re talking about sexual pleasure, things are more mentally driven for women thab for men. “People say that the brain is the most important sexual orgasm and they’re right,” Thrasher said. “It’s important to silence all those bothersome thoughts that interrupt intimacy.”
An emotional connection can help too. “Having a strong connection with your partner strengthens the quality of the sex, specifically orgasms,” Thrasher continued. “A woman should feel appreciated, desired, understood and accepted by her partner.”
5. Add A Little Spice To the Senses
Instead of simply getting down to business, Katz advises playing a game with your senses to prepare your nerve endings. “Be it with a fragrance oil massage or some spanking, playing with the senses can arouse some people more than an hour of oral sex. Consider using blindfolds, feathers, satin, skin and candles to create a sensorial game as foreplay,” Katz said.
6. Pretend Until You Succeed
This doesn’t mean fake your orgasm, Katz advises to simply pretend to know what you’re doing in the bedroom: “The more confidence you have, the sexier you will be, and the more sexy, the more you and your partner will enjoy it. So if you’re not sure about trying a new move or position, or trying something completely new, remember to breathe and go for it as if it was the best thing in the world.”
7. Neglected Erogenous Zones
It’s not only about the G-spot. According to doctor Ava Cadell, people miss out on intense orgasms that can arise from neglected erogenous zones. “Nipple stimulation can provoke an orgasm. For women, caressing the breasts and nipples releases oxytocin, the chemical that makes them they are in love. This is an area that many men stimulate before sex but rarely use to induce orgasm.”
A little more to the south you can find the A-spot. “That means the Anterior Fornix, also knowns as the Epicenter or Female Prostate,” explained Cadell. “It’s located inside of the vagina in the upper wall much deeper than the G-spot. It can be stimulated with the finger, the penis, or a sex toy.”
The elusive G-spot can be found “– if you use an imaginary clock as a guide — inside the vagina between 11 and 1 using an imaginary clock pointing towards the belly button.”
For more pleasure it’s best to combine these areas. “Men, you can take her out of this world by combining kissing, games with the nipples and clitoris stimulation,” Cadell advises.
