Handy: a graph has charted out the most reliable way to give women orgasms.
In 2009, the National Survey of Sex and Behaviour asked 1,931 US adults aged 18 to 59 about their most recent sexual experiences.
They found a major orgasm gap between the genders, with men achieving orgasms 91% of the time they had sex, versus 64% of the time for women.
Interestingly enough, there was also a gap in the perception of orgasms. 85% of men said that their female partner had orgasmed – a significantly higher number than the percentage of women who confirmed that they actually had.
Which means that a lot of women are probably faking it.
The study also took a look at the types of sex the people engaged in, and noted which ones resulted in orgasm most frequently.
FiveThirtyEight has now turned that data into a handy chart, which shows exactly which sex acts are coming out on top (pun intended).
The data for men’s orgasms is on there, too, but given that men orgasm around 90% of the time regardless of type of sex, let’s just put that to one side.
To everyone’s shock and amazement, the number one sex act which reliably caused female orgasms was receiving anal sex, with 94% of women achieving orgasm when they partook in anal.
AKA the number one sex act men are always banging on about.
But men: don’t start reaching for the lube and confidently telling women that anal is the BEST way for them to achieve orgasm just yet.
The figure isn’t exactly an accurate representation of the most effective sex, orgasm-wise.
Only 31 of the women surveyed actually took part in anal sex, significantly reducing the size of the study’s anal sex related data sample.
It’s also possible that women who try anal sex are more open to trying different sexual acts, and may be more confident in bed, which might add to their abilities to achieve orgasm more reliably.
Or, anal sex might be happening with more build-up, increasing its orgasmic power.
Or anal is most likely to be accompanied by clitoral stimulation, which is more likely to have led to the orgasm.
There’s a LOAD of factors involved.
But if you do want a more reliable way to get women climaxing all over the place, one other crucial stat the study revealed is the importance of changing it up in bed.
Women were more likely to achieve orgasm as the number of different sexual acts increased.
So it’s a good idea to mix up regular penetrative sex with oral and other fun stuff.
Both men and women who experienced five different sexual acts in one session reported an orgasm rate of more than 89%. (Graph: FiveThirtyEight)
But let’s end this on an important reminder: EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT.
Especially when it comes to sex.
What works for one person does very little for another, and while the percentage of women who managed to orgasm while receiving anal sex might rave about its greatness, there are plenty of women who just don’t like it.
Your best bet?
Try lots of things that interest you, and be open to new stuff.
And if in doubt, ASK.
Communication is key.