There is a load of relationship advice on the internet and in advice columns. Some of it is good, some of it is not so bad, but some of it is pretty awful! In fact, these days, anyone with a basic grasp of the language and a computer keyboard can offer their advice, but beware, not all of it makes a great deal of sense! Here are just ten of the, not so clever, relationship tips that you would be well advised to ignore:
- Always wait for the man to make the first move
If you wait for some guys to make the first move, you are going to be waiting for a long time! This, so called rule, is long past its sell by date. Girls can take the initiative too, so ask the question; the worst that he can say is ‘no’.
- Online dating is for desperate people
Many people now meet the love of their lives online, so does that make all these people losers? Of course not! Online dating is a convenient way for busy people to get introductions to like minded people. That’s why so many successful relationships have now blossomed from online dating sites.
- Don’t let him know how you really feel
A bit of mystery is fine, but if you don’t let the guy know how you feel about him, how’s he supposed to know! Men are notoriously bad at reading between the lines; they need a little encouragement and prompting, so don’t leave it to chance.
- Leave him waiting to hear from you
You’ve probably heard about the rule that says that you should wait three days after date before contacting him. Well, this is a rule to be completely ignored. If you liked the guy, then talk to him the next morning if you want to. Certainly don’t leave it for three days, because three days is a long time and a lot can happen in three days!
- Always let the man take initiative
This little gem started to go out of date in your grandmother’s day, so don’t hang about if you like a guy, go and ask him out on a date. Men like a bit of confidence in women and they will be flattered by the attention.
- Don’t let him know how much you like him
This one is just silly, how’s he going to know that things are going well, if you don’t tell him? Sure, men tend to like a challenge, but they’re not going to wait forever if they think that you don’t even like them.
- Never date a work colleague
Dating someone at work can make things complicated, but it shouldn’t be a hard and fast rule that you never should. Many couples meet at work, after all, that’s where you spend a lot of your time, so why not?
- You should feel an instant connection to a guy
Love at first sight happens to some lucky people or in movies, but for the rest of us, mere mortals, it sometimes takes time before we feel that connection. In fact, the opposite of this rule is probably true in that you shouldn’t write a guy off, just because of a mediocre first date. You might just need a bit more time to get to know one another better.
- Date someone else to forget your ex
While this tip can seem to be useful for some people, usually, it doesn’t work this way and it’s actually not so fair to use another person as your ‘moving on tool’. Make sure that your heart is free from anger, hurt and regrets of your past relationship and don’t bring all this luggage of negativity into your brand new one.
- Never discuss the future
While discussing how many children you want to have, on a first date, is not a good idea, if you have been seeing a guy for a while, you’re going to need to know where the relationship is leading. This is for your benefit too, because if you are looking for a serious commitment and he is not, then you need to know that.
What is your favorite relationship advice for single girls?