We’ve heard at least one or two, or even all of these ideas about getting under the sack. And now sex expert, Debby Hernenick dispels five things people believe about getting under the sack that are not just true. Courtesy from our friends at Shape.
1. There’s No Such Thing as the G-Spot
While scientific journals go back and forth arguing over the precise location of the G-spot, there is no doubt that there’s an area on the front wall of the vagina that—when stimulated correctly—can produce pleasurable sensations for some women, says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., a sex researcher at Indiana University. But the largest snag in the search for the elusive G-spot is the notion that it can be found. “The research community knows that the sensations are real, but we cannot pinpoint the exact source of the pleasure,” Herbenick says. But just because the G-spot is not a visible mass you can point to—like an elbow or a breast—certainly doesn’t mean it’s mythological, she adds.
2. You Can’t Get Pregnant During Your Period
While the risk is small, it’s still there. “No matter what time of the month it is, getting pregnant is always a possibility if you’re having unprotected sex,” says Emily Morse, dating expert and host of the Sex with Emily radio show. Sperm can stay alive for roughly a week after it enters your body. So if you’re getting busy near the end of your period but then you ovulate shortly after, there’s still a small risk that his swimmers could make it to your egg in time, Morse says.
3. Aphrodisiacs Boost Your Sex Drive
Feeding your partner dark chocolate-covered fruit feels super erotic, but it’s not doing much for your libido. “There is a lot of research available that shows how certain foods can improve your sexual function,” Herbenick says, but there’s not hard evidence that proves the commonly cited aphrodisiacs—oysters, red wine, dark chocolate, avocado—are actually boosting your desire. That doesn’t mean you should nix them from your pre-sex routine if you don’t want to, though. “If something makes you feel sexy, go for it,” Herbenick says. “Just know that the food itself isn’t magical.”
4. Squirting Doesn’t Happen
While squirting is a real phenomenon, the confusion often arises when people start using the term “squirting” interchangeably for female ejaculation, Morse says. Female ejaculate—which is different than the lubrication produced when you’re turned on—is a small amount of whitish fluid that occurs during or just before you climax. As for women who squirt, it’s hard to tell whether they are truly experiencing the projection of female ejaculate or if they’re just peeing a little, Herbenick says. Some women experience a bit of “gushing” during climax, but the reason often boils down to anatomical differences in genital tissue.
5. Men Are More Visual Than Women When It Comes to Sex
People often assume visual stimulation goes hand-in-hand with watching porn, but not all stimuli needs to be X-rated. For example, many women prefer to leave the lights on during sex so they can admire their partner’s eyes, lips, and muscles, Herbenick says. Or it can be as simple as using a mirror as a prop to watch you and your partner get busy, she notes. The most important thing to remember: Men and women have difference preferences. “Most of the porn that’s out there is made for men, by men,” Herbenick says. “So just because that certain genre doesn’t cater to a woman’s sexual appetite, doesn’t mean that she won’t use visual aids to get in the mood.”