Some men are just flat out users and abusers. No one wants to date a man who is out to be a player and a user. However, sometimes, the signs are usually obvious. Being used is not only frustrating, it’s painful, and it definitely takes a toll on your self-esteem. In the event that you’re unsure, here are 14 signs he’s playing you.
Things are rarely consistent
The relationship is a rollercoaster, to say the least. Some weeks you two are talking and he’s initiating things and then a month later he has completely pulled away from you and no longer seems to want to be involved or invested in the relationship. That’s because he doesn’t.
You pay the majority of the time
There’s nothing wrong with going dutch and in most relationships nowadays, things are split 50/50. It’s normal to go out to dinner one date and your man pays and then the next week you pay. However, if you find that you’re paying for almost every meal and activity that you two do together, it’s a huge sign that he’s playing you. Your wallet shouldn’t be the only thing providing funds in the relationship.
He keeps you in the dark
Rushing a relationship is never good, but as time passes and things get a little bit more serious, couples usually have the talk about what the future holds. When a man keeps you in the dark about what he wants out of the relationship in the future and his wants and expectations, he probably isn’t seeking a future with you and is instead just leading you along.
Words don’t match his actions
Anyone can say something but what’s important is following up on those words. Is this man someone who talks a lot of talk and says a lot of sweet words but his actions just don’t match up with them? Sweet talkers tend to be players who are just looking to satisfy their own needs without really caring about yours. Nice words are good to hear, but follow-up actions have a much bigger impact. If the actions don’t meet the words, move it along.
He’s dependent on you
Sadly, a lot of women fall into the trap of wanting to help their partners in any way, shape, or form, even if it’s detrimental to their own well-being, or bank account. If you are with a man who is dependent on you financially, then this is a huge sign that he may be playing you. When a man expects you to foot all of the bills while also paying for his expenses without contributing a dime, something is definitely up.
He puts in very little effort
Effortless relationships tend to rarely go very far, and things become stressful when you’re the only one trying to make things work. If you have been spending time with a man who isn’t interested in putting in much effort to get to know you or to advance things, then it’s likely that he’s playing you for his own benefit.
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