If you’re serious about improving your love life, then you have to learn how to turn a guy on. The problem is that different guys get turned on by different things.
Some guys love being the dominant partner in bed, while others like being totally submissive. Most, however, prefer a mixture of the two: sometimes being the dominant partner, sometimes being the more submissive partner.
There are hundreds of different kinks and fetishes that your man might get incredibly turned on by. He might love to see you dress up in sexy, skimpy clothing or he might like when you dress up as his favorite video game character, or maybe he likes nothing more than when you lick his toes — seriously! There really are hundreds of different fetishes and no end to kinky ideas.
Let’s start with a basic lesson on how to turn a guy on.
He’ll beg you for more.
1. A Dirty Mouth
There are ton of different ways to talk dirty to your man depending on what you’re most comfortable with. You can take the wild route by being really explicit and descriptive when talking dirty to your man — basically, saying the most nastiest, trashiest, most kinky things you can think of.
But you can take the complete opposite route when talking dirty too. If you want, be really polite and not explicit at all. Here are a few examples of being polite with your dirty talk.
- “When I get you back to your room, I’m going to give you something you’ve only ever dreamed of.”
- “I bet that no matter how hard you try, you can’t guess what color bra I’m wearing.”
- “If I didn’t have to go to work today, I’d totally spend the whole day in bed with you.”
2. Oral Sex, Anyone?
This pretty much goes without saying, but guys absolutely adore getting oral sex. A huge amount of guys even prefer getting a blow job to regular sex.
So if you are truly serious about turning him on, then you should start learning some decent oral sex techniques.
3. Tell Him What You Like
Telling your man what you like and enjoy him doing in bed serves two purposes. It lets him know what techniques and positions get you off the most while massaging your man’s ego in a subtle way.
If you like him making love to you in a certain position or using a certain technique or kissing you in a certain way, then let him know. Describe what it is about it that turns you on, and try to use as much detail as possible.
4. Take The Initiative
Your man might find it really hot when you take a little bit of control and initiate things. So, if your man is usually the one who starts things in the bedroom, then without mentioning it to him, change things up and be the one who initiates things.
5. Find Out His Kinks And Fetishes
If you truly want to turn your man on in a way that no other woman can, then you need to find out his kinks and fetishes. But for guys, these are often something really personal and private.
Guys are usually very nervous and shy about revealing them to anyone, so if you surprise him and directly ask him what really turns him on and what his kinks are, then he might try to dodge the question. So my first advice is to avoid asking him about them directly.
Instead, I suggest you be indirect in your questioning. Wait until you’re both in bed. Right before sex is the perfect time.
Start by telling your man about some of your tamer kinks and turn ons. If could be him being very aggressive in bed or him going down on you. Then, if he seems to like hearing about them, tell him about your deeper fantasies and turn ons. After talking about your kinks for a while, it’s time to find out his.
Rather than asking him really directly about what his turn ons are, be indirect. For example:
- “I bet you love it when I’m dominant and in control in the bedroom.”
- “Do you prefer me going down on you or using my hands?”
Once he starts opening up, he’ll hopefully volunteer his turn ons to you. But, if he doesn’t open up, then start to explore further with more indirect questions like these:
- “I have a sneaking suspicion that you’d like to see me with another girl.”
- “I bet that you’d get really turned on by doing it in public.”
If you enjoyed learning about what turns guys on and want to learn more techniques, tactics and tips for pleasing him, then you may be interested in watching this detailed video tutorial on giving your man great oral sex. It will teach you pretty much everything you need to know on how to please your man with your mouth.
This post originally appeared on Your Tango: If You Do These 5 Things, You’ll TOTALLY Turn Him On (Trust Us!)