A gentleman who hadn’t learnt how to disagree without disengaging swooped on one of my posts sometime ago. He shared a different opinion but instead of attacking the issue, he decided to attack me.
I stared in unbelief at his comment because unknown to him, I paid his final year school fees when his family was financially stranded. His online insult was a good time to inject some sense into his millennial zeal but I rejected the temptation. I swallowed the insult and went ahead to restrict his access to my page because I had no energy to engage him. I simply concluded that if he knew better, he would have done better.
I remember another scenario where a high profiled client had inquired if hiring a particular church member was a great idea. I replied affirmatively because I knew he was desperate, depressed, mentally unstable and needed a job badly at that time. I vouched for him like I knew him. Few minutes after, the client went ahead to put a call to him in my presence to inform him he was hired.
The Sunday after, he testified in church about how he was hired for a job he didn’t qualify for. I was happy to be used by God and never whispered a word to him.
Fast forward to last month, he came to insult me online. Coincidentally, I didn’t know his boss saw it before I did. She pinged me to ask if he knew I recommended him, I said no and pleaded not to ever mention it to him. I wasn’t interested in human worship.
The lesson in these two cases and others is the fact that every answered prayer will most likely be delivered through a human being because God understands and leverages on relationships. When God wants to promote you, he will use a human being and when the devil wants to destroy you, he will use a human being too. No one is self-made. You are where you are today because of everyone who contributed to your existence. Even if you now despise them the fact still remains that they were a tool.
Relationships are energy.
Energy is the currency of life.
Energy costs energy and energy transitions must be paid with energy.
Every time you lose a rewarding relationship, you lose energy. One day, you will encounter resource depletion and when you do, you will understand that financial poverty means poor relationship management skills.
Oyinkansola Alabi is a popular Nigerian life coach and emotion doctor.
The opinions expressed in this article are solely those of the writer.