Self-empowerment is not something that anyone is born with, the confidence that you need to empower yourself, is learned. If you are truly connected to yourself, you believe in yourself and you have the confidence to make yourself heard, then you can take back control of your life and you can achieve your goals. Here are ten attitudes that anyone can learn that will empower you and help to improve your life:
1. Speak your mind
Don’t be afraid to express your opinions, because they are just as valid as the next persons. Stand up for what you believe and make yourself heard, and then you will have achieved the first step to empowerment.
2. Visualise yourself as a stronger person
Picture yourself as the person that you would like to be. Think about how more confident people would deal with certain situations and, visualise yourself doing the same. You can learn from other people whilst still being yourself.
3. Think about how you can help others
Worrying about you, all the time, can make you become introverted and afraid to express yourself. Think, instead, about other people, and what you can do for them. When you focus more on helping people, and strengthening friendships, you can start to feel better yourself and have more control over your life.
4. Affirm your own positive attitude
Keep telling yourself that you are the master of your own destiny and boost your own self esteem by constantly telling yourself: ‘I can do it!’ Psych yourself up, before you walk into a room, or before you make an important telephone call, and tell yourself: ’ I will get what I want.’
5. Don’t be afraid to lead
Don’t just accept what other people say, make your own decisions and don’t be afraid to take the lead. If you are out with a group of friends, for example, say which bar you want to go to, and don’t just keep going along with what someone else wants.
6. Accept the fact that no one is perfect
No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes, but don’t let that hold you back. Waiting for your own perfection will just bog you down, so go with your gut feelings and accept that, sometimes, you may get it wrong.
7. Take an independent attitude to life
There are times when everyone needs a shoulder to cry on or a helping hand that they can rely upon, but you should try to adopt an attitude of independence, whenever you can. Take on the responsibility for your own life and don’t leave it all in the hands of other people.
8. Be prepared to work hard
Becoming powerful and successful is not a matter of luck; it takes hard work and perseverance. Take pride in all that you do and work hard at it; hard, because knowing that you have done the best that you possibly can, will always boost your feelings of empowerment.
9. Appreciate and love yourself
Make a list of all your great qualities and impress yourself! Be proud of who you are and learn to appreciate those wonderful attributes that you possess. A little bit of self-appreciation will work wonders for your confidence.
10. Be determined to take control
In essence, self-empowerment is taking control of situations and taking control of your own life, but it is not about being self-centred and selfish. When you feel confident in your own self-worth and you do start to take more control, you will find that you gain far more respect from other people and, you will be able to give more back to them too.