The old adage goes that women are from Venus and men are from Mars. Yet despite both sexes being unreadable to one another, there are still proven techniques for attracting the perfect mate and hitting it off.
This is not easy, though. As well all know, attracting the perfect guy takes a lot of effort, and it’s often the case that we have to go through the mandatory phases of embarrassing ourselves, spilling a few drinks, before landing the man of our dreams. And if we don’t learn the right techniques, we could end up with the not-so-perfect guy at the end of the bar who has a drink problem, still lives with his mom, and is “working on the job situation.”
But if you’re ready to take things up a level, let’s take a look at 10 proven tips on how to attract the perfect man today.
1. Smell Nice
Animals and insects gravitate towards a mate because a certain scent ignites desire. Women and men are no different, and the better you smell, the more chance you have of attracting the perfect guy.
As well as perfume, you should also consider other scents too, such as your breath. Well all know that we need good breath if we’re to impress a hunk, but sometimes we don’t take the necessary steps to getting good breath. We suggest that you stock up on spearmint before heading out!
2. Be Playful
Men are not often attracted to serious women who can’t take a joke, especially on first dates or nights out. Instead, they warm towards girls who don’t take themselves too seriously, and who know how to have a laugh. It tells the man that here is a girl they can relax around and open up to.
Being playful is really easy; you simply need to loosen up a bit and flirt! You should be a bit physical too, and sock him with a few punches to the arm, and a poke to the waist. Deliver a playful insult too, if the mood calls for it. Bottom line: don’t be afraid to have fun!
3. Look Your Best
When you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s perfectly fine to pig out and lounge around your lover in your slacks.
But if you’re trying to impress the perfect guy for the first time, you’re going to need to look your best. For this, you need to work on your makeup and your clothes. This might mean that you spend a bit of cash, but you should look at it as a long-term investment that will reap rewards. If you have the time, head to the gym more often and get yourself in a shape that you are happy with, and that feeling of confidence will help you catch a swell guy.
4. Be Mysterious
The key to reeling in the perfect guy is to create a mystery around you and keep him guessing. If you reveal everything on the first date, he’s going to assume that you’re actually a rather empty person who hasn’t got much going for you.
So you need to leave things out of the conversation and crank up the excitement and interest by keeping parts of yourself covered up. You want to keep him interested, and one of the best ways to do this is to give him the idea that you’re like a box of chocolates filled with secrets.
5. Make Eye Contact And Smile
We’re always told to make eye contact when we’re flirting with men, but if you make eye contact and smile you’re onto a definite winner.
Guys just love it when women look at them in the eyes when they’re talking to them, and they positively go weak at the knees when you top it off with a smile. You’re essentially telling them that you’re into them, and this is a sign they will read. If you make eye contact with a man, it’s sure that you have a 20% chance of hitting it off with them. If you smile too, you have a 60% chance. So smile!
6. Mirror What He Does
Nope, we’re not asking you to play that annoying game “copy cat” that you used to play on the playground in order to annoy your friends. Instead, we’re suggesting that you mimic his gestures.
Whilst this sounds super creepy, it’s a really simple trick that embeds itself into his subconscious. Rather than think, “why on earth is she copying me?” the guy will instead assume that you totally dig him.
Just don’t go over the top and mimic everything he does, because that is super creepy. But, for example, when he takes a sip of his drink, you should do the same. It shows that you are both in harmony with one another and are meant to be together.
7. Be Positive
Nobody likes a downbeat, negative person in a bar who we’ve never met before, and the perfect guy especially doesn’t. For this reason, if you’re trying to catch the man of your dreams, you need to be positive and upbeat.
This means smiling around him, having a laugh, telling jokes, and being optimistic. It means asking questions, talking about your ambitions and generally being happy. Naturally, you shouldn’t go overboard because he might think you’re crazy; but just let him know that you’re a positive, fun person who loves life.
8. Have Nice Hair
Guys love girls with nice hair. The more chic it is, the better. If you’re having a bad hair day, it’s really important that you resolve the issue before you head out for the night, because one of the first things a guy notices about you is your hair. And if your mane makes a bad impression on him, your personality isn’t going to compensate for it. So obsess over your hair as though your life depends on it!
9. Laugh At His Jokes
“Orange you going to let me in?”
“ … That isn’t funny.”
If you don’t laugh at his jokes despite him being otherwise perfect, you’re going to struggle to win him over. Guys like to loosen up and have a giggle, and if you can’t do the same and enjoy their sense of humour, you may as well move onto the next guy who might not be so perfect.
10. Ask Questions
The perfect guy is not a robot who wants to sit there all night asking you question after question. Instead, he wants you to take an interest in him and ask him some questions too.
This is really easy to do; all you need to do is think about what you’d like to know about him and ask away! Asking questions not only shows that you are interested, but it also opens up the possibilities of more avenues of conversation, as well as the possibility that you have more in common than you first thought.