If you’ve been single for a while, but it feels like it’s been ages, then it’s time that you went out looking for a date! There’s nothing wrong with being single, mind you, so don’t go hunting, just because you feel you have to, or your friends keep pushing you to do so. If you are sure you are ready, though, and you are a bit out of practice, then you might need some pointers on where to find your potential date and how to get him to ask you out. Here are top ten tips on how to find that elusive date.
1. Strike up a conversation with a stranger
Step one: start talking to guys! That may sound a bit simple, but you can get so tied up with nerves, because you know you are looking for a date, that you shy away from talking to anyone. Don’t think of every encounter with a man, as a potential for date, think of it as a possibility for making a new friend. Wherever you are, a coffee shop, a library or standing in line in a store, say hito a guy, and start up a conversation. You never know, the next man you start talking to could be your next date.
2. Join some clubs
Singles clubs are not the only place to find a date, how about a dance class, swimming club or a yoga class? Choose some clubs or classes that really interest you and then, when you do meet a guy there, you will be off to a great start with a common interest you can share.
3. Look for him in the supermarket
The shopping mall or supermarkets are actually great places to meet people, if you are willing to talk to them. With a little bit of detective work, it’s easy to spot the single guys too by what they have in their shopping. The guy who has diapers in his shopping basket is probably not your best bet, so look for the one who looks like he is buying food for one.
4. The water cooler at work
You certainly wouldn’t be the first person to have found love in the office, so keep your eyes open at the water cooler too. It’s so easy to start a conversation with someone you work with, even if you don’t really know them. It’s also easy to find out what the gossip is about him too, before you go back and try and catch him at the water cooler again tomorrow.
5. Go out on your own
If you have a favourite restaurant or café, then there is nothing stopping you going out for a meal on your own. Single guys dine alone too, so you can either wait for him to make a move, or make the first move yourself. The worst that could happen is you get a bit of company for the veining.
6. Take walks in the park
Take a regular stroll in the park at the same time every day and you will soon start to notice that same faces are there every day. It won’t be long before you are nodding to one another, then saying hi and then, the next thing you know, you will be sitting on a bench talking. If you want a secret weapon in the park, then buy a dog, because dog owners just love talking to each other. If you are not a dog lover, offer to walk a friend’s dog for them. A dog is one of the best ice breakers that there is.
7. Throw your own house party
Have a party at your house and invite all your friends. Make sure you ask them to invite some of their friends too, especially the single ones! When it’s your party, you can walk up to anyone and start talking to them with no embarrassment at all, and you should be introduced to everyone who comes to your party.
8. Go to art galleries and museums
Whether you are a lover of art, or not, an art gallery, or a museum, is the perfect place to meet a single guy and it’s so easy to start a conversation. All you need to do is to say how amazing an exhibit is, or even ask a question about it, and then you get a chance to flirt a little. Who knows, perhaps you will walk around the rest of the exhibition together and then go for a coffee afterward?
9. Try something extreme
If you have never tried, hang-gliding, abseiling or any other kind of action packed kind of sport, it’s a great way to meet eligible and very fit young men. Don’t worry that you are a novice, because that’s not a problem. It won’t be long before some gallant man comes over to lend you a helping hand.
There is no shortage of charitable organisations looking for volunteers and opportunities for doing voluntary work, and they come in all kinds of different forms. It could be helping to renovate a historical monument, clearing up a children’s play area, or spending a few hours working in a charity shop. It gives you the chance to give something back, and it’s also a great opportunity to meet like-minded single guys too.