by Ainee Nizami
You’ve been dating for quite some time now and people have started popping the ‘kabhi shaadi karogi’ question at weddings and family dos. You are sure you have found Mr Right but he seems to be on a different page altogether. Is he really going to marry you as he says or is it time to dump him and move on? Read this to know.
Future denial: For him, planning for the future equals deciding what to eat for dinner the next night. If he evades talks of the future and avoids all discussion, throw him out, now!
His future talk doesn’t include you: ‘In two years I am going to buy a house which is right next to where I work.’ Yep, you aren’t figuring in that plan.
Future denial: For him, planning for the future equals deciding what to eat for dinner the next night. If he evades talks of the future and avoids all discussion, throw him out, now!
Allergic to commitment: Do you often see him making the ‘thank god I am safe’ reference when he meets his married friends? Well, what can we say! Throw him out and change the locks.
He is allergic to the M word: Okay, not everyone loves marriage discussions but if he avoids the M word like the plague, you need a rethink.
He never owns up in public: If he downplays the relationship in front of his friends and family, often referring to you as his ‘good friend’, chances are he isn’t going to stick around for too long.
He can’t make decisions: His decision to not marry you might not even be personal. Maybe he just can’t make up his mind when it comes to big decisions. Do you really want to be with him?
M is for maybe: If he says he might marry you if you give the relationship some more time, move on.
He sleeps during romantic movies: Okay, this might not sound all that important but trust us, if he high fives you when the hero leaves the bride-to-be and runs away, it might just be an insight into his marriage psyche.
He has commitment issues: It doesn’t get more obvious than this. Move out, please.
There is always an excuse: Talk marriage and he always comes up with ‘Only after I start earning more,’ or ‘Only after I buy a house.’ While his focus is good, it might also be an excuse to keep your relationship in limbo.
He always gets out of family dinners: If you always find him making excuses when he has to attend any family event, he probably isn’t thinking of them as an important part of his future.
Your dates aren’t serious: If going out consists of crashing over at his place or renting a movie, chances are he is just having a casual fling. While comfort does tend to take over in a relationship, his lack of effort could point to a bigger issue.
