Have you been in a relationship for a few years and find your sex life is starting to dwindle? Whether you’re in a long-term dating situation, or have been married for over a decade, it’s not unusual to get into a sex rut. After all, life gets busy and people get comfortable. Add in the stress of buying a house, having some kids, or getting promoted, and it’s no wonder the bedroom is being used more for sleeping than for sex.
Luckily, we’ve got 5 of the best ways to kickstart your sex life and light that spark again.
1. Schedule Sex
We know, this seems super unromantic and a little bit like that movie you watched on Lifetime the other day. But scheduling sexy time works. It’s hard to fit in sex when life is crazy and you and your partner have a million things to do. And being tired at the end of every night is not helping.
So, schedule sex just like you would any other appointment in your life. After all, sex is important right?
2. Create a Signal
Sometimes you and your partner may find you’re lacking in the intimacy department because you’ve literally been at it for so many years there’s no more excitement. One way to get things going is to create a special signal, known only to you and your partner, that indicates you’re interested in having sex.
Think about it. You’re out with your friends having a good time, and your partner signals to you that he’s ready to get frisky when you get home. This is a surefire way to ignite the passion and prepare yourselves for what’s to come.
3. Do It in the Morning
Did you know that most women want sex at night and most men want it in the morning? Because of this, it seems nearly impossible to have great sex after years of being with the same person when you don’t even want it at the same time.
Matching sex drives can be challenging and cause a serious rut in your sex life. But it doesn’t have to. Try mixing it up and having more morning sex. Since being tired is a common excuse for not wanting to get intimate, morning sex is the perfect solution.
4. Try Something New
Being a little daring in the bedroom can light your partner up. Whether it be buying that new vibrating toy you’ve had your eye on or checking out the sex dolls on offer to turn your twosome into a steamy threesome, sometimes taking things up a notch is all you need to turn back the clock to when you and your partner were having hot sex all day every day.
5. Be Honest
After so much time passes in a relationship, the newness often wears off. What once attracted you to your man may now repel you from him. But if he doesn’t know what’s turning you off, how can anything get better?
Try having a blunt conversation with your partner about why you guys are at a sex standstill and see if you can solve the problem together. Sometimes all it takes is a little bit of communication and openness. And don’t do this mid-sex either. Set aside some time when you and your partner can have a serious talk about how each other is feeling. This reduces the pressure and allows each of you to explain what you think the problem is and what it will take to fix it.
And there you are! 5 of the best ways to break out of your sex rut. No matter how long you’ve been in a relationship, a dull between the sheets is likely to happen at some point. But don’t worry, sometimes trying to get out of it is half the fun.