Ever wondered about the passion mantra of couples who keep throwing suggestive glances at each other at social dos?
Well, they don’t actually possess any magical potion, but keep their love quotient strong by making an extra effort to spice up their love formula. “Any time you throw in a surprise, be it a last-minute, long drive plan, an offbeat date at an unexplored destination, an unexpected gift or acting extra bold in bed, it sends a signal from your brain’s reward center which in turn stimulates the rest of your brain, including the areas that register love and bonding,” says Dr. Sanjay Chugh.
Catching your partner off guard not only makes them feel lucky, but also in love. Here’s how to use your imagination and give a sexy twist to your love life…
Amend that accent
Try anything from Haryanvi, Punjabi, Bengali to Italian, French or Russian when whispering sweet nothings to him or when screaming in the heat of passion. To hear a strange accent from your partner when the sexual climax is building up is an implausible turn-on. Don’t bother much about what sense you are making at that time, your partner won’t bother much to comprehend. Just pick the slang from local channels and get going.
Anticipation is the ultimate aphrodisiac. When going out for a family get-together, text your partner something that will make him or her lust for you all evening. Either he/she will cancel the party or they will try to stay close to you to feel the convivial ecstasy of the night ahead. Irrespective of whether you are in a long-term relationship or have recently started dating, your mate will love this superseductive surprise. You can send an erotic text listing your fantasies or simply MMS the photo of your bed with a “Meet me here after dinner….” teaser. The rationale lies in the fact that if you know your partner is up to something, it will overwhelm you with desire.
Honey! I have your remote control
This one’s especially crafted for the girls! We all know what happens when guys glue their eyes to the idiot box, watching repeated telecasts of their favourite hockey, cricket and soccer matches. Surreptitiously, take away the remote while he is still stuck to channel surfing, sneak into the room behind him and turn off the telly. He may get awfully annoyed, but let him turn around to see you standing there in a sexy pose or clad in tantalising lingerie. You can also hide a love note at the places he is most likely to look for that devilish remote.
If you are one of those shy kinds whose heart starts racing the moment a little crudeness enters the bedroom, you can surprise your partner by being overtly expressive and talking suggestively. Remember, when you talk kinky, you are enacting a fantasy; and not merely surprising (or shocking) your partner and checking his/her comfort level with the whole idea. However, don’t start bombarding the other with hardcore crude statements, instead, start by saying tamer things, using tamer language, for instance, “I’ve been wanting you all day…”
The sexy hidden note
Roll in a piece of paper into his socks/briefcase, with a note, “I want to kiss you wildly tonight” and just watch the effect. There is a strong possibility that he might not step out that day, and even if he does, he won’t be able to resist your charm and will surely comeback early to experience the untamed sexual bliss you promised. A sexy note is great, but you have to make sure it is left in a very private place, like underneath the pillow, in his socks, in his wallet or in her lingerie drawer. Regardless of where you leave or hide a love note for your lover to find, writing the note and taking the time to find a unique place for it says that you are still very much in love with your spouse.
If you are interested in exploring the sensual side of life, or maybe even planning a surprise, romantic evening for your love, this idea might appeal to you. As you know, communication plays a vital role in any relationship. There is, however, more than one way to communicate. An invitation saying, ‘Let my lips do all the talking at 9 pm, study room’ is a sure shot way of sweeping your spouse off his/her feet. Another interesting way of treating your mate is by giving them coupons every time they help you out or maybe win in a simple game. The coupons may read, “Congratulations! You win a kiss anywhere you want,” or “This coupon is good for a new lingerie treat.”
An ample number of creative invitations and coupons are available on the net, all you have to do is download, print and customise them. The best part of the bargain is that love coupons don’t come with an expiry date and can be used any time.
Strip and tease
Striptease is the most common, yet the most perfect, unexpected treat. Don’t fret if you think you can’t dance to save your life or don’t have an hour-glass figure as any woman can give a great striptease. Choose an attire that highlights your most striking body features, select a seductive number and lure and tease your lover. Remember to use dim lighting because it is both flattering, making you more comfortable, and more intimate. And, avoid wearing anything that’s complicated to slip out off.
Routine life can get boring at times, even for you. So why don’t you turn your mate on with some sexy surprises? Not only do these shared experiences make you feel excited about each other all over again, they also strengthen the bond you share. So, what are you waiting for? Use you creativity, blow your partner’s mind and watch your union grow.