How do you know you found your soulmate? How do you know that you love someone? Ah, true love…Everyone is looking for it, everyone has been sure at least once in their lives they’ll never find it but most have been proved wrong, luckily. The need for emotional attachment seems to be a major one for us, so how do we know it’s the big L? Here are ten signs:
1. The world can die and you won’t notice
When you’ve found your true match, when you have each other’s company, the rest of the world sort of fades to the background. And that’s not just in the initial infatuation stage, it’s more lasting. Your significant other has just become the most important person for you.
2. You don’t get jealous, you worry
When he’s late from work, your first thought is not that he’s cheating on you with a colleague but that he’s been run over by a bus. That’s a sure sign that your feelings for your man are true and deep. But don’t focus on those worries, they can ruin your life.
3. You’d go to the end of the world with him/her
This may sound like a romantic cliche, but with us being the creatures of habit that we are, it takes real love to voluntarily move to a new place to live, especially, if it’s a place you don’t particularly like. After all, anyone would gladly move to the vacation island of their dreams, but not to, say, Belarus or Belgium.
4. In sickness and in health
No, that doesn’t mean that true love necessarily means marriage. It means that when you really love someone, pampering them while they’re ill is not the Herculean task it would be if the ill person was not your closest one. You know what ‘babies’ men become when they catch a cold, right?
5. You can imagine growing old together
When you really love someone and they love you, it’s not very hard to imagine your life together a few decades later. And you don’t mind imagining it, either. You don’t mind growing old, if you’re doing it together.
6. You want to have his/her kids
Unless you both have very strong anti-procreation views, which would be totally fine, when you truly love someone you want to have children with them – not with anyone else but with him or her specifically. That’s a good tell for people who are otherwise indifferent to kids, or were indifferent, before they met their true love.
7. “Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds”
When you really love someone, an argument, even a serious one, would not change your feelings for them. You don’t start hating them just because your views on something differ, or because of a bad habit. You learn to live with these because you love the person who has them.
8. You can sit in silence
Think for a moment: how many people do you know with whom you can just sit and not speak. Chances are there won’t be many, even counting your closest friends. Closeness is the keyword here – if you really feel close to someone, parents excepted, you won’t feel uncomfortable with the silence and you won’t feel an urge to fill it.
9. You’re selfless
Another old cliche says that if you love someone, you should set them free. Let’s rephrase this: when you really love someone, his or her happiness takes priority over your selfish desires. For example, if your nearest and dearest doesn’t want to live in Belarus or Belgium, you would never force them to do it just because they love you.
10. You start loving yourself more
It may sound paradoxical at first but loving someone truly and being loved by them has an amazing effect on how you feel about yourself. It’s so great to be able to have these feelings for another human being, isn’t it?
How do you know you found your soulmate? How do you know that you love someone?