5 Ways To Bounce Back From A Failed Relationship

5 Ways To Bounce Back From A Failed Relationship

By Lifestyles | The Trent on August 14, 2014
heartbreak naked photo mr wrong
Photo Credit: Shutterstock

They say letting go is easier said than done. And that’s because it is. Anyone can preach about warning signs and giant red flags. How we must walk away if a man stops calling or withdraws emotionally or even cheats. How releasing an unhealthy relationship will strengthen our self-esteem and our self-worth. But rarely do we learn tools for letting go and bouncing back. That is, until today.

Here are 5 ways bounce back after a breakup. None which include slashing tires or substituting affections with another.

1. Gratitude: One way to let go is to be grateful for it all. Instead of dwelling on the mistakes and disappointments, look at the lessons learned. If you loved someone and they broke your heart, at least you felt love. Some people never feel love. If the love was never reciprocated at least you know you can give love. Some people never give love. They are too afraid. No matter what your experience, walk out the door feeling grateful for the love you gave and/or received, even it was fleeting.

2. Separate: When letting go, we must lose contact with our exes immediately. A breakup is rarely mutual. Someone always wants more. If you’re struggling to let go, you’re probably the person who is still holding on, hoping for a reunion or another bout of lovemaking. Delete his/her number if you have to. Put your foot down and do not pick up his/her phone calls.

3. No Booze:
Drinking is a depressant which only means one thing – you will drunk dial after a breakup! If you spend your first nights trying to forget about your ex-love by making love to a bottle, the bottle will soon be replaced with a cell phone. And slurring is so not sexy. Besides, this will only kill your progress. You will be filled with regret and that is never useful when moving on.

4. Heal Alone: Moving on with someone else usually means you are substituting your ex with another. The baggage you carry will feel much heavier as you have yet to heal from the ending of a love affair. By no means should you cut yourself off from dating. Just take your time when frolicking in the dating pool. Depending on the how deeply your last relationship impacted your life, you may just want to be alone for a while. There is nothing wrong with that. It allows real time to heal and to get to know yourself.

5. Closure: Everyone wants closure but we don’t always receive it from our ex-significant other. If that is the case for you, simply ask yourself the questions and come to your own conclusions. Assess why you are in the predicament you are in. Have you been in this situation before? Do you have a pattern you must break? Do you attract the same partners? What is your role in your singledom and heartbreak? Do you choose to dwell and analyze every detail? Be honest with yourself about why the relationship failed. And please, do not blame others. We all have a part in why relationships fall apart. We just don’t always want to admit it.

In the end, the ease of letting go depends on how we look at the relationship. If you see it as a loss, you will feel the loss with somber tears. If you see it as a waste of time, you will feel embittered. But, if you see it as an experience, a lesson learned, another story in the journey of finding your King or Queen, it will be that much easier to let go and embrace the love that’s to come.

Sujeiry Gonzalez, often referred to as “The Latina Carrie Bradshaw,” is a funny and vibrant relationship (non)expert (as she calls herself) that tells it like it is – with just add a little more sass, a lot more Bacardi and ton of laughs. This sassy single gal has rocked the relationship market since early 2006, and today contributes her pearls of wisdom to a number of different media channels. Her comedic personality, unique voice and irrefutable talent have also led her to pen Love Trips: A Collection of Relationship Stumbles – a poignant and witty collection of personal essays, in which she chronicles her relationship stumbles. Love Trips is a fearless account of one woman’s journey to love, and easily serves as the ultimate what-not-to-do relationship book for women who have stumbled in love and found themselves through the same journey. Culled from BounceBack.com.


Leave a Comment

To leave a comment anonymously, simple write your thoughts in the comments box below and click the ‘post comment’ button.